The first time I felt Hulk-like jealousy wash over me was the morning after prom night.All my friends crashed at my best friend's house except me, since I'd passed out on the dance floor and was rushed home.Next thing I knew, I was hot with rage and screaming to wake them (and the entire house) up.From that moment on, I became obsessed with knowing every detail of his whereabouts.First up; a little bit of reassurance: feeling some jealousy in a relationship is perfectly normal.If you never experience any kind of jealousy then you might have to question how emotionally invested you actually are in your relationship.It won’t make any difference if they did or didn’t. (If your partner uses your suspicious nature as a reason to cheat, you two both need help. You are entitled to your feelings, but you must examine them for evidence in reality that they are accurate. Jealous people are hurting people: they both hurt others, and are hurting themselves. Your friends or relatives cannot help you with this. Please help.” She was really in pain and her partner was threatening to leave for the last time. But, that’s a topic for another day.) Sometimes people are as jealous of their partners as they were of other children taking away their mother’s attention. Maybe, you didn’t get the attention you wanted before, and now you feel no one could possibly love you enough to be faithful. You need to uncover the causes and lay them to rest once and for all. I had a client who started her first session with, “I am so jealous. She was willing to change to keep her jealousy from ruining her relationship.
If you find your jealousy creeping into everyday life and causing you to feel angry or resentful on a regular basis, then it’s definitely something you should address.We’ve compiled a list of 10 Dos and Don’ts in order to help you overcome jealousy and let your relationship blossom harmoniously.The first step to overcoming something irrational is, as always, to acknowledge that you have an issue.(Now, just in case you’re about to go off the deep end and yell at me “But, s/he cheated,” that is not about jealousy. Phil says: “Jealousy is a poorly disguised need for power and control.” Here’s some telling relationship questions: You’ve got a problem. Even if your partner has never strayed in thought, word, or deed, your suspicious behavior may drive them to do that, too. You can get relationship help to find out where that jealousy came from, where it’s hiding, and why it sneaks its head out to devour your relationship.That is about actual behavior that took place that now needs attention and relationship help.) Jealousy isn’t about something that really happened. It worms its way up from within you, looking suspiciously at your partner over your shoulder at all times. It is your insecurities tying you up in knots and spitting them out at your partner. If s/he is being accused of cheating all the time, they might take that as you telling them to go ahead. Don’t let jealousy ruin your relationship and your life.